Video Tips

Watch Out for the Word ‘But’

The on-off switch in our children’s ears, and one way to help it stay in the ‘on’ position.

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Keeping our Children Safe Online

Online Safety – 2 reasons our children might not talk to us, and what we can do about it. Thank you PC Alan Earl (Alan’s Twitter account is here if you’d like updates).

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Launch of the New Self Study Course

Keen to get started right away rather than wait for the next date? Want to go much quicker or slower than the regular course? Still want access to community calls? The new Self Study Course may…

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When your Child says ‘No’

Tired of asking your child to do something and getting a ‘no’ in response? Here are some ways of asking which are more likely to lead to cooperation – and when they don’t, options for dealing with ‘no’ without getting…

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Should I Make my Child say ‘Thank You’?

It’s Christmas. For those of us celebrating, a combination of gifts and relatives may be more in evidence than usual. Perhaps it’s a good moment to consider what we want to do when we would…

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Solving the Problem rather than Saying ‘Don’t!’

Fed up of saying ‘Don’t!’? Fed up of your child not taking any notice? A strategy more likely to engage cooperation and encourage joint problem solving is to give children information rather than a command….

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The Problem with Rewards – and the Alternatives

We routinely use rewards, bribery and praise with our children, with the intention of supporting them to succeed in their relationships and their lives more generally.  But do rewards get in the way of children…

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Games with Kids who don’t like Losing

Playing games which end in ‘I don’t want to lose’ meltdowns is not much fun.  What does it look like to let children choose if they want to win?  Is it fun for everyone?  And…

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